Rock and a hard place

The gossips (these are boys, by the way) come into my classroom and start the day with: "guess what Ms. L, guess what! Guess who A is dating."

Me: "Who? You?"

Gossips: "No. Mr. Naughty."

Me: "Wait, what?"

Gossips: "Yeah, ask her."

Let me give you some background. A is one of my favorite students of all time. She works her butt off for me, and has been working her butt off for almost 2 years. Her family is ridiculously supportive. They both went to Ohio State (go Big Ten!), they volunteer at school, her mother works at our K-3 feeder school. Her mom and I are close - we talk about school, her kiddos, we have gone out on social occasions. Heck, we even text about our favorite trashy tv shows. She's a colleague and I have one of her kids' best interests at heart.

Her family is amazing, too. A plays travel softball (which is a big deal in our demographic because it is so expensive.) She goes to camps to improve her game. Her family reminds me a lot of mine growing up: they play sports together, spend time together as a family, and laugh a lot.

So, first dilemma. A's mother has been adamant that A cannot date until she is 16. We have talked about this on numerous occasions.

Second dilemma: If A was dating someone innocuous, you know, one of the closeted gay 7th graders who wants to watch chick flicks and listen to music from female singers identified only by first names (Madonna, Cher, Barbara, Britney, etc), I'd be okay with this.

BUT SHE'S DATING MR. NAUGHTY.

Mr. Naughty, who drives every adult crazy. Mr. Naughty, who pimps out his first grade brother to fight other first graders while everyone watches. Mr. Naughty, who wears beaded, colored bracelets on his wrist to signify what he has done with a girl.

WAIT WAIT WAIT. Yes, that's right. They brag about sexual conquests via jewelry.

So, this kid is a bad influence on A. Seriously. She's too innocent for him. I am afraid he is either going to a) hurt her or b) make her do something she's not comfortable with.

And let's think about my demographic. Not comfortable with = unwanted pregnancy.

So now I'm caught between a rock and a hard place because I know she shouldn't be dating a boy. But I don't want to tell her mom. But I don't want her to do something I know she is not ready for.

I don't want her to be another bracelet on his wrist.